Almost everyone seems to be quite familiar with the word “counselor” and their typical job profile these days. You are right!! People come to them with their day to day problems they are stuck in. Some of these are small issues while others are quite complicated. However, in most cases people admit, they felt life changing experience after approaching mental health professionals.
A lot of clients come to me with various kind of genuine problems in their life. I figured that the root cause of many unstable conditions is not getting an assistance for relief in their distress situation. Somehow I realized, if they had got genuine guidance in the initial stages, they probably wouldn’t have to come to me with this kind of bigger issues. It does not mean these people don’t have any well-wishers in their life. They must have parents, spouse, siblings, children, besties or many others who care about them a lot. Many of them had given them good practical advice in their hour of need. Sometimes, they might also have motivated the concerned persons to put a foot forward for the needed change in their life.
It ofcourse works for some. But what about the rest? They also need good feasible guidance. The issue that hinders them from solving their own problems is no one is there to hold their hands to execute the plan. If someone wants to discuss some of his feeling about some “difficult to handle” situation or person, others see this as a complaint. They think that they are being accused of his problems. However, the actual case might be a bit different. Sometimes the suffered one is just sharing his feelings to make all know how it makes him feel, and he just wants others to consider his feeling so that situation can be avoided in the future. That’s all.
Eventually, all don’t get the chance to solve their issues so smoothly. What happens in reality, is many feel that their life is being far more complicated, because of the other people’s reaction to their issues. Others don’t see it with the similar perspective as the sufferer, they only focus on their own personal matter of responsibilities and accountabilities as a cost to make that person live in peace by changing set ups. So they normally suggest him to adjust to the situation, to not be much demanding, to somehow fit with their own escaping strategy etc. Moreover, if they share their problem with others for a needed guidance, most of the time people get a chance to laugh and use this as a gossip item. As a result, difficult times teach a bitter truth, bad experience and authenticity of near ones to many of us.
We human are the social animal. We make friends, family and bring togetherness not just for having fun. We can expect some minimum level of empathy in need, and that is not being selfish. Unfortunately, only some lucky people get these lavish opportunities in their life. This is the reason, more and more people are getting lonely despite being in a crowd.They face their pain alone. They fight to get rid of their problems on their own instead of sharing it with near and dear ones. And finally, seek professional help when they almost are in serious problem.
If they had received proper advice from their beloved in the earlier stages, they probably would not need to come to us for the same. When they seek us how do we do our job? We do our job as a friend. It is to save those poor guys detangling from the unmanageable web. We help them to clean dirt, to bandage their bloody wounds of the hidden injured mind, to save the soul and realize its true potential. The Counselors guide them to face obstacle strategically to cut any further loss. That’s why we need professional counseling.
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